When I was in junior high, I received death threats from two girls. It stemmed from petty jealousy issues. After I was named editor of the school newspaper during my senior year, I overheard catty comments and my Jeep got keyed.
Although people mature some in college and in the workforce, I’ve noticed the issues of dislike, contempt and jealousy continuously. After recently discussing it with another friend who has experienced the issue, I wanted to post on it.
“Understand that sometimes no matter what you do, you will be unfairly labeled. As long as you assert yourself fairly and honestly, don’t worry about being called names.”
I’m an introvert. I love discussing ideas, but I need time to myself as well. Unfortunately, some people have taken my quietness as being as sign as something else. I might be percieved as withdrawn, uncooperative, aloof or unmotivated. Through the grapevine, I’ve heard a lot of the things I’ve been called. It always gets around and eventually the message gets back to me. It’s always something petty and catty.
Here’s my opinion for others who have experienced this:
You don’t have to be liked by everyone, especially those with petty reasons for disliking you. Be true to who you are, work hard and strive for success.
The hard part about this is that public relations is such a relationship-driven field. Many young professionals faced with similar situations wonder what they can do to improve, or at least neutralize, the situation.
What do you do when you’re dealing with a petty/catty person?
- Don’t stress over being liked by this person. In the scheme of things, it’s probably not that big of a deal.
- It is impossible to make everyone happy, so just be civil and respectful.
- Don’t let other people’s opinions dictate your actions. Do what is right for you.
- Be confident in your skills if you know you rock at them. But, don’t be afraid to say, “I don’t know.”
- Be honest with who you are and what you want.